So, I have many character flaws. Little gliches in my genetic make up which could be classified as "interesting" if you were being charitable or downright irritating if you are not. I am aware of these foibles but not so great at keeping them under control so I occasionally put my not-so-teeny feet straight in the mire.
Those posters saying "engage brain before opening mouth" - they were written with me in mind. I've inadvertently lost friends for myself (and others) by recklessly speaking my mind without prior consideration of the consequences. Not that I'm a complete cow you understand, there is usually some provocation but I think my tolerance could be higher.
Yesterday I teased someone who, it turned out, didn't have a sense of humour about the subject in question. In the ensuing minutes of raised voice and character assassination, I got bored and put the phone down.
Not my finest hour but I'm bored of being treated like this. So, now the dilemma. Shall I take the high ground, ring and grovel an apology or wait for them to ring me? There are things that need to be said but sadly I'm not sure I trust myself enough to say them rationally and calmly.
Least said, soonest mended or shall I take the plunge and make a call? Come on wise ones, lend me your thoughts.
10 years ago
1 comment:
Hmm... hard to advise - need more juicy details please! But I'm in the mood for giving advice (probably crap advice, but you did ask).
Regarding the subject matter, well an apology would be suitable if it is a subject which is a known Achilles heel. But if not, then everyone makes mistakes and puts their foot in it at some point and therefore maybe you can be forgiven, but then that depends on what was said afterwards in the 'raised voice, character assassination' part that followed...yikes.
But whatever happens if you do speak to this person again about it all then do apologise for putting the phone down on them. If there's more to be said then call them and start off with saying 'I'm sorry for putting the phone down on you, I think we need to talk about this a bit more.'. Then you can go to town on them if you want!
I bet it'll make a great post!
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